What to do about wedding dress drama?

I went dress shopping with my mom and a friend of mine. I tried on all different styles of dresses and shades of white. I feel that a pure white dress just makes me washed out with my fair skin and blonde hair - however my mother thinks different. She feels that its tradition to wear an all white dress..that pure white is a bride - not a bride wearing a champagne color dress.. I feel like I'm disappointing her by not wanting pure white. What do I do?

What to do about wedding dress drama?

The bottom line is that you need to feel completely comfortable in the dress you wear because otherwise it will show in your demeanor and your face and, most importantly, your pictures - which will last a lifetime. If you feel comfortable in a champagne colour, than buy a champagne colour dress. Based on what you have described your appearance to be, I would avoid pure white myself as well. Your mom is coming from the tradition that brides have to wear white because it symbolizes virginity. Whether that is true to your situation or not, it's an old fashioned and outdated opinion. Your photographer will be taking pictures of you all day long and if you do not feel 110% comfortable in your wedding dress, it will radiate in the pictures. If your mom is being obstinant about this you'll have to sit her down and explain it to her. The bottom line is it is your choice and she needs to learn to respect that.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Try to find an inbetween color. I am very fair skin and my dress is called diamond white. It isn't BRIGHT white but it is still white. See if you can find a happy medium try some ivory ones on not as far as the color champagne. But remember this is your wedding wear what makes you happy. I know that is hard and everyone says that. It is sooooo hard to do!

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Find one that you love. It is your wedding not your mother's. She will get over it. The dress will not be the most important thing in the long run. She may be disappointed for a little while, but when it comes to the day, she will be happy no matter what color the dress is.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

YOU NEED TO SATISFY YOURSELF EVEN THOUGH I AGREE WITH MOMMA!

I FEEL LIKE HER AND I ALREADY HAVE KIDS AND EVERYTHING BUT I STILL WANT TO FEEL LIKE A BRIDE AND THE DINJY, OFF-WHITE OR CHAMPAGNE LOOK JUST ISN'T GONNA GET IT. BESIDES, ITS MY WEDDING AND WHOEVER DOESN'T LIKE IT DOESN'T HAVE TO SHOW UP.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

You should go with something YOU like after all, though they might not realize it at the time it is YOUR wedding. If you really feel that you don't want to disapoint your mother you could keep the dress all white, but then on the top maybe have some lace, or something extra added in a rose, or a lighter color of your choice that brings the warmth back to you instead of washing you out.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Wake up girl are you going to be a grown woman and stand up and start your own family or are you going to keep being Mommy's little girl. It is your wedding and if you wear a dress you do not want it is only your own fault. Tell you mother it is your dress, your wedding and your day and you are not going to wear a dress that makes you look washed out and feel less than your best and that is that. If you can't do that and make it stick, you are so not ready to get married.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Order the color that looks best on you. As long as it is some shade of white, no one will know the difference. Look at the wedding photos in my profile and tell me what color my dress was. I bet you'll say white...

btw...assuming you don't just stand up to her, you could order the dress without your mom around and then tell her you got white...she'll never know.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Mine was an Ivory off-white. My husband's tux was the same color. Our Jr brides maid and flower girl were in very light blue clearance Easter dresses that I picked up on a whim for $3 apiece...and they looked like they were custom made for the wedding. It's YOUR day. Do what YOU want!

What to do about wedding dress drama?

It's your special day, and you deserve to have the dress you want. I understand you don't want to hurt your mom's feelings, so maybe you can point out to her all the reasons why you look so terrible in a pure white gown. Have your friend back you up.

Good luck!

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Some brides even wear pink or blue now. It's your day and something that you will remember forever (hopefully in a good way). You will have to look at the pics and you will have to feel good about yourself. Go with the color that you choose.. it's your decision and if you are mature enough to make the decision of getting married you should be mature enough to be able to make your own choices. Your mother needs to let you have your day as you wish.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

go for the champaign colored dress, it is your wedding

What to do about wedding dress drama?

You choose what you want. You are paying for the gown, it is your wedding, do things your own way.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

It is your wedding...wear what you want. That generation has no idea about the personalizations and trends of weddings going on now. For them , white was the only color and anything else is unacceptable. Whatever you choose she will see that you are beautiful in...I am also blond with fair skin and I'm going to be wearing more of a pink color...my mom will hate it, but once she sees me, she'll get over it.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

1) it is your wedding. you do not have to please anyone but yourself and your husband to be.

2)many brides in previous eras wore colours, not white. white did not become popular for brides until Queen Victoria. try having a period wedding, that way you could look into colur symbolism from different periods (many of them, such as medieval times, blue was the colour of purity because of it's association with water, red was for fertility, and green was never worn because it was thoguht to hide premarital trysts(because it hides grass stains) and because people were afraid fairies would kidnap the bride because they like the colour green.

Overall it is YOUR wedding and YOUR dress, so wear whatever you want to...your mom will have to get over it.

What to do about wedding dress drama?

Diamond white is the purest, brilliantly blinding white you'll find alot of brides wearing if they buy their gowns from stores like David's Bridal. It rarely looks good on anyone, so don't fret, and don't get frustrated. It's understandable your mother wants to present you as the pure bride. Every mother does.

But it is your wedding. There are alternatives. It's not as though you're asking to wear purple. Not even champagne! Try to compromise with your mom about finding a pale creme or softer white. You might be able to ask for colour swatches to see the different shades the dresses can be ordered in. Ask the sales floor girls for options, it's what they are there to do.